From time to time, we are faced with situations where we know the right thing to do but are led away by our emotions. From our attitudes in tough times, to how we respond to a hurt or disappointment. These create defining moments in our lives and the decisions we make in these moments not only affect us, but those around us.
Do not be fooled. The people around us are always watching and taking note of our reactions OR responses. Yup. There is a difference. If someone cusses you out and you cuss them back in the blink of an eye, you are reacting. A response however, is when you take a step back from your emotions whether they be anger, disappointment or shame, and you give a composed answer. This doesn’t mean you are weak or a pushover, but actually shows strength. Hey, it takes alot to reel it back in and to display self control.
So many times I have been faced with situations where another person was being nasty or unfair towards me and I was so tempted to react to their treatment. There are even times when others would try to instigate and manipulate with the intention of getting me to badmouth the other person. Just the decision to hold my tongue instead of gossiping was a defining moment. It shows others what I stand for. What makes the biggest impression isn’t what we say in the good times but what we do in the difficult times.
I always say, how a person treats you has nothing to do with you. How you respond is what you hold responsibility for. When we compromise it speaks volumes on our character and integrity. But a good example will inspire those around us to not only be better, but to do better.